Few of us are conscious of being immediate or present as we are speaking, listening or moving about in our daily lives. Most are not looking three to four feet ahead of us as we move along. Instead we are planning, preparing, imagining, wishing, reflecting, or anticipating with fear rather…

There is a certain type of child that I have seen in my psychotherapy practice over the years. He is often a boy who is between the ages of twelve and seventeen. He can be an only child or have siblings. His physical health is good, and he has many…

Many parents believe their child’s anger toward them is a sign of disrespect. The parents say they would never have spoken to their parents in an angry or defiant way, and they will not tolerate any such tone or opposition that appears disrespectful. It is not unusual to hear that…

We all want to be connected to others in some way. If we look beneath layers of complex defenses, we find we are in need of being recognized, praised, comforted, reassured, and loved. We try to avoid feeling separate, isolated or alone. We go to great lengths to get the…